3 months ago 🤯 for day 182, with 480 words.

Frozen eggs

Today was yet another day I wanted to skip posting, but I've decided (as you can see) to write a post anyway. I will keep the streak alive!!

And that's interestingly enough the theme of my post today; keeping something alive. Or maybe not alive. Suspended with the possibility for life might be a better way to describe it.

At the beginning of 2017, I had a small crisis. A lot of my friends on Facebook posted about being pregnant or getting married. At the time it had been a year after a breakup with a boyfriend of 3,5 years. That was the longest relationship I had ever had (still is).
I've always said that if I were to have kids, I would have the first one before the age of 30. At the time I was around 24 and even after 3,5 years with the same guy I hadn't felt ready to make a family. Far from it. That meant I had 6 years left to:

  1. Find a guy.
  2. Fall madly in love and continue to love this person even after the first 2 years (that's usually when things fall apart for me).
  3. Decide to have a baby.
  4. Get pregnant and give birth.

Point 4. could easily take a year and point 2. takes 2 years which left me with 3 years to find the father of my future children. That's not an easy task!

I spent nights awake because of the pressure. I wasn't even sure I wanted kids. But I was freaking out! I was so afraid I would miss out. I wasn't ready for a serious relationship​ and since kids were never a huge dream, I didn't consider the single parent life with a sperm donor.

The solution to my insomnia came when I one night made a decision​. After having Googled things thoroughly I had decided I would freeze my eggs! In Denmark,​ you can only do so for 5 years and I decided I would look into the process when I turn 28 (that way I get to keep some of the pre-30s freshness a couple of years into my 30s).​ I made a small note in my calendar​ and mentally marked​ the problem as solved. Maybe I would find a guy before then — which would mean I didn't have to worry about the egg freezing anyway — but in case I didn't, I had a plan!

My 28th birthday is only a year away now. I feel a bit more relaxed about (not) having kids. I'm pretty sure it's not in the cards for me, but I'm still open to the idea. If I have the money in a year, I will look into the process of having some eggs frozen, just to be sure I'm not gonna run out. A lot can happen in a year, but having a plan still makes me feel calmer about the whole thing.

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By Kirstine Granzow Larsen 🤯

I recently got a Master's degree in IT Product Design and I'm currently looking for my first job! ✨

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