3 years ago for day 89, 2019 with 766 words.

Hopes, dreams, goals

What are you aiming for in life? What are you hoping to achieve by your actions today?

We all have hopes and fears. Hopes that our lives go well, we achieve our dreams and have a fulfilled life. Fears that it doesn't go well, we fail to reach our dreams and we look back wondering what it was all about.

Understanding our fears is important, it helps us see the why behind some of our actions, and gives us the chance to approach things differently.

But the hopes, that's the gold dust. The fears are just trying to get in our way. Our hopes are what we're aiming for, that which we hope to materialise.

Yesterday, in my 1-on-1 with my new boss, he asked me what I hoped to achieve, what my goals were, what I was aiming towards.

I've thought about this quite a bit recently, as I've been re-evaluating what I'm really aiming towards since leaving The Dot, a business I was on track to co-found with a friend of mine.

For a long time I've had my goal set at running my own business. I've worked towards it, spending a lot of time learning new skills, attempting to build products that improve lives and meeting new people.

But since I moved to London I've made a change. I've put a lot more focus on the other parts of life, the parts I'd neglected. Friends, mostly. I've stopped isolating myself with my laptop and engaged with people around me beyond a superficial level.

So in amongst this change, it's got me wondering whether my long standing goal of running my own business remains true. Or whether there's something else that I'm really hoping for, something behind my entrepreneurial goal.

Yesterday, as I was chatting to my boss, I started to explain what mattered to me. "My goal is to attain more levels of freedom, more levels of choice", I said. It was about getting to the point where I could live where I wanted, work where I wanted, work as much as I wanted, on the things I wanted to.

That's a big goal, I admit. But that's what I've realised has been behind the goal of running my own business. That and the challenge and growth inherently required in the process.

You see, I'm a firm believer in the growth mindset. I want to always be growing and learning, and in running a business, there's no better place to continually be forced to evolve as a human.

So in one sense, I'm looking to gain freedom to not have to work, so that I can work just as hard as ever.

I don't like the idea of retirement. Sure, that's easy to say when it's this far away, but the idea of stopping work and taking it easy on a beach, that sounds like it'd get old real fast.

I guess it comes back to what Daniel Pink says in his book, that we're all motivated by three main drivers: mastery, autonomy and purpose.

I think a big part of the freedom I desire is to secure autonomy. If I have no-one telling me what to do, then I can choose for myself how I spend my time.

Running a business provides a big part of the other two, too. Mastery comes from continual growth, and a business gives great opportunities for purpose in making others lives better.

But in amongst all that, I realise I could be just as happy if I don't hit any of my big goals. If I don't achieve freedom to work wherever I want, whenever I want. If I have to live in a specific place for a specific job that takes a specific amount of time.

Ultimately it comes back to the three Pink lists. If I have some combination of those, I'll probably be happy.

And most of all, the most important of the three for me is purpose. We all have a deep-seated desire to leave a positive mark on this world, and so purpose is key to living a fulfilled life.

So where will I be in 10 years time? I really have no idea. That's part of the fun of life. Will I have achieved my goals of freedom to work where I want, when I want? Or will I have less choice, but you never know, be more fulfilled?

I have no idea. Today is today. Let's go get it.

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By Fred Rivett

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